Rising After Divorce | Emotional Healing, Reclaiming, Starting Over, Trusting God
Did your divorce feel like it didn't just break your marriage — it broke you?
Like somewhere between the pain, the paperwork, and the nights you couldn't sleep... the woman you used to be quietly disappeared.
Your confidence walked out the door. Your sense of value went with it.
And deep down, you started wondering if real love was simply no longer meant for you.
If that's where you are — you are exactly where you need to be.
I'm Patty Martin-Guerra, and I'm not speaking from the outside looking in. I'm speaking as someone who sat in that same darkness.
I know what it's like to carry the quiet shame of a failed marriage.
To feel paralyzed by the thought of starting over.
To lie awake asking God whether you were too old, too wounded, too far gone for Him to write anything beautiful with what was left of your story.
But here's what I found on the other side of all of that:
Wholeness was always waiting for you. It still is.
Dating After Divorce for Christian Women Over 40 is where the real, unglamorous, necessary work actually happens.
We go deep on healing the invisible scars your marriage left behind.
We name the cycles that kept pulling you backward.
We rebuild, piece by piece, your identity, your worth, and your trust in God's plan for your love life — so that when the right person arrives, you're not just available.
You're whole. You're grounded. You're ready.
Each week I'll bring you the honest conversations nobody else is brave enough to have — the truths your closest friends can't quite articulate, your pastor tends to sidestep, and no search engine will ever hand you.
Because you weren't meant to simply outlast your divorce.
You were meant to flourish after it.
🗓️ New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe now and let's take this journey together.
Your story isn't over, sweet friend. The next chapter? It's only just beginning.
Ready to stop guessing and start dating with confidence?
You deserve a love that honors you — and it's time to believe that's possible.
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Episodes
Episodes
Jul 21, 2025
Jul 21, 2025
8 min
The difference between healthy desire for companionship and desperate loneliness.
Understanding your single season as sacred space, not a waiting room.
Recognizing when loneliness is driving decisions vs. genuine readiness.Learn how to wait well: honesty, intentionality, and contentment.
Why God's timing involves preparation, not withholding
Featured Scripture:Ecclesiastes 3:1 - "To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven."Additional Biblical References:
1 Corinthians 7 (Paul on singleness as a gift)Genesis 2:18 ("It is not good for man to be alone")Philippians 4:11 (Paul's contentment)
🌟 READY TO LEARN HOW TO WAIT WELL? 🌟
✨ Identify whether you're operating from healthy desire or desperate loneliness✨ Create a personalized plan for using your single season intentionally✨ Develop tools to discern God's voice in your dating decisions✨ Build unshakeable contentment while you wait for God's best
What clients are saying:"I finally understand the difference between waiting and preparing. My whole perspective changed!"
"I stopped settling for less than I deserve and started trusting God's timing completely."
Don't let another day pass feeling torn between your heart's desire and God's plan.
Your season of waiting can become your season of greatest growth. Let me show you how.
Are you tired of the constant tension between your loneliness and God's timing? Do you find yourself making dating decisions from desperation rather than discernment?
I have LIMITED spots available for one-on-one coaching sessions this month.
Schedule your 1-1 Here
Jul 14, 2025
Jul 14, 2025
8 min
Learn the Pros and Cons when multi dating.
If you feel stuck in your dating journey or would like to prepare yourself to receive your prince charming, contact me for a 1-1 session
Schedule Here Your Free 3-Minute Session
Jul 8, 2025
Jul 8, 2025
10 min
Let's explore one of the most important but least discussed topics in love:
the need to heal our emotional wounds before seeking a partner.In this episode you'll discover:
Why we tend to rush into relationships as an escape mechanismThe signs that indicate you need time to heal before starting a new relationshipHow childhood wounds and past relationships influence our current romantic decisionsPractical strategies for taking the necessary time for your emotional healingThe difference between looking for someone to "complete" you versus someone to grow with
This episode is for you if:
You notice you repeat the same patterns in your relationshipsYou feel constant urgency to be in a relationshipYou've ended recent relationships and are already looking for the next oneYou want to break generational cycles of dysfunctional relationshipsYou desire to build healthier and more conscious relationships
Remember: taking time to heal isn't selfishness, it's self-love. And self-love is the foundation of all true love.
If you would like guidance in your dating journey and save yourself some headaches and years of disappointments, schedule a 1-1 sesion with me.
Here
Jul 1, 2025
Jul 1, 2025
11 min
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!" - 2 Corinthians 5:17Your divorce decree isn't a life sentence – it's a permission slip to become who you were always meant to be.
Stop asking 'Why did this happen to me?' and start asking 'How is this preparing me for what's next?
The right person won't see your past as baggage – they'll see it as the journey that made you the incredible woman standing before them.
By the end of this episode, you'll have concrete tools to:
Write the perfect bio to attract the man God has for you.
Remember Quality vs. Quantity
Warning: This episode may cause sudden outbreaks of hope, self-worth, and excitement about your future!
Ready to turn the page on your old story and start writing your new beginning? Press play and let's transform your mindset together.
If you would like guidance in your dating journey and save yourself some headaches and years of disappointments, schedule a 1-1 sesion with me.
Here
Jun 17, 2025
Jun 17, 2025
7 min
Listen to this episode and learn the emotional complications that dating someone not yet divorced gives you emotional complications include being second priority, dealing with unresolved baggage, and relationship instability
Bible Verses Referenced:
Psalm 27:14 - Wait on the Lord
If you would like guidance in your dating journey and save yourself some headaches and years of disappointments, schedule a 1-1 sesion with me.
Here
Jun 17, 2025
Jun 17, 2025
6 min
In this episode, we explore the crucial differences between genuine attentiveness and subtle manipulation in dating relationships. Learn to identify red flags and green flags while developing biblical discernment in your romantic relationships.Key Topics Covered:
Characteristics of genuine attentiveness vs. manipulationRed flags that indicate manipulative behaviorGreen flags of healthy, attentive partnersThe importance of trusting your God-given intuitionBiblical wisdom for relationship discernment
If you are searching for guidance 1-1 to navigate the dating world, I am here to help.
Sesion 1-1
Jun 9, 2025
Jun 9, 2025
14 min
Are your dating standards keeping you from finding love?
In this episode, we explore the difference between healthy standards and unrealistic expectations that might be sabotaging your relationships. From social media influence to past hurt protection, we uncover where impossible expectations come from and how they're costing us genuine connections.
Key Topics Covered:The Movie Hero Complex and other common unrealistic expectationsHow social media and pop culture shape our relationship idealsThe hidden costs of perfectionist dating standardsDistinguishing between healthy standards and unrealistic expectationsPractical steps for dating with wisdom and faith
1-1 sessions HERE
Jun 3, 2025
Jun 3, 2025
15 min
If you've been struggling in the dating world, feeling discouraged about love, or wondering if God has forgotten about your heart's desires - this episode is specifically for you.
Three years ago, I was exactly where you might be right now. Exhausted from dating apps, healing from toxic relationships, and wondering if real, godly love was even possible for someone like me. I was ready to give up on love altogether.
But then something incredible happened. When I stopped looking for love and started seeking God's heart, everything changed.
Today, I'm married to the most amazing, godly man who loves Jesus and loves me exactly as I am.In this week's episode, I'm sharing the three specific tips that completely transformed my love life. But more than just tips, I'm sharing how putting my faith first led me to a love story more beautiful than anything I could have imagined.
This isn't about changing yourself to find someone - it's about discovering who God created you to be and positioning yourself for the love He has planned for you.
Whether you're single and searching, dating and confused, or healing from heartbreak, this episode will give you hope and practical steps to transform your approach to love.
Listen now and let me know how it impacts your heart. I have a feeling this might be exactly what you needed to hear today.
Sesion 1-1