Rising After Divorce | Emotional Healing, Reclaiming, Starting Over, Trusting God
Did your divorce feel like it didn't just break your marriage — it broke you?
Like somewhere between the pain, the paperwork, and the nights you couldn't sleep... the woman you used to be quietly disappeared.
Your confidence walked out the door. Your sense of value went with it.
And deep down, you started wondering if real love was simply no longer meant for you.
If that's where you are — you are exactly where you need to be.
I'm Patty Martin-Guerra, and I'm not speaking from the outside looking in. I'm speaking as someone who sat in that same darkness.
I know what it's like to carry the quiet shame of a failed marriage.
To feel paralyzed by the thought of starting over.
To lie awake asking God whether you were too old, too wounded, too far gone for Him to write anything beautiful with what was left of your story.
But here's what I found on the other side of all of that:
Wholeness was always waiting for you. It still is.
Dating After Divorce for Christian Women Over 40 is where the real, unglamorous, necessary work actually happens.
We go deep on healing the invisible scars your marriage left behind.
We name the cycles that kept pulling you backward.
We rebuild, piece by piece, your identity, your worth, and your trust in God's plan for your love life — so that when the right person arrives, you're not just available.
You're whole. You're grounded. You're ready.
Each week I'll bring you the honest conversations nobody else is brave enough to have — the truths your closest friends can't quite articulate, your pastor tends to sidestep, and no search engine will ever hand you.
Because you weren't meant to simply outlast your divorce.
You were meant to flourish after it.
🗓️ New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe now and let's take this journey together.
Your story isn't over, sweet friend. The next chapter? It's only just beginning.
Ready to stop guessing and start dating with confidence?
You deserve a love that honors you — and it's time to believe that's possible.
Join our community and take the next step:
Connect with Patty on Instagram — questions, conversation, and next steps: 🔗
🔗 https://www.instagram.com/relationshipcoach4women
Join our Facebook group - Dating After Divorce
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Episodes
Episodes
Aug 4, 2026
Aug 4, 2026
8 min
Feeling forgotten by God after divorce? This episode breaks down why His silence isn't His absence — and how to feel Him again, one small step at a time.
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3 teaching points as bullet takeaways
Scripture list: Psalm 34:18, Isaiah 43:18-19, Romans 8:1
Ready to go deeper?
💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉
Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.
You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page
Jul 28, 2026
Jul 28, 2026
8 min
After my divorce, fear made almost every decision for me — the job I took, the man I stayed with, the dreams I shrunk. Today I'm showing you how to spot fear-made decisions before you make another one."
The one question that exposes a fear-based decision
The 24-48 hour rule for panic decisions
Why shrinking your life doesn't protect you from more pain
The verse that breaks fear's grip: 2 Timothy 1:7
Ready to go deeper?
💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉
Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.
Jun 30, 2026
Jun 30, 2026
10 min
Have you ever found yourself scrolling through a dating app at midnight — not because you're ready, but because the silence in your house feels too loud?
Friend, you're not alone. And in today's episode, we're going to talk about something nobody told you to do after your divorce — fall in love with YOU first.
Before the next relationship. Before the next first date. Before anything else.
In this episode you will learn:
✅ Why you don't recognize yourself anymore — and how to find your way back
✅ Why being alone doesn't mean something is wrong with you
✅ Why you keep giving love to everyone but yourself — and how to finally stop
✅ Simple things you can start doing THIS WEEK to come home to yourself
We also look at what Psalm 139:14 and Matthew 22:39 say about why loving yourself is not selfish — it's actually scriptural.
The right love is not going to complete you. The right love is going to find you already whole. And that wholeness starts with you.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED:
💛 Join the Healing After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉
Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.
👉 Follow me on Instagram: @relationshipcoach4women
💬 DID THIS EPISODE SPEAK TO YOUR HEART?
Share it with a friend who needs to hear it today. And if you're ready to go deeper, come join us inside the Healing After Divorce membership. You don't have to do this alone.
Rising After Divorce for Christian Women Over 40 is a faith-based podcast to help you heal, rediscover yourself, and step into the woman God created you to be — after divorce.
Jun 23, 2026
Jun 23, 2026
8 min
Have you noticed you keep picking the same kind of man... and getting hurt the same way? In this episode, we talk about the difference between dating from a wound and dating from a healed heart — and why most women don't even realize they're doing it.
You'll learn:
Why you keep choosing unavailable men (and how the abandonment wound drives it)
Why you hide your true self on dates (and how the rejection wound drives it)
How to fill yourself first, so you date from want — not need
One Bible verse to help you see your own heart clearly
If you're tired of opening your heart, getting hurt, and closing it again — this episode is for you. Healing comes first. Love that lasts comes after.
🎙️ Listen now and start dating from a healed heart, not a wound.
💛 Want support walking this out, not just hearing about it? Join Dating After Divorce — text RISE to get started.
Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.
You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
Jun 16, 2026
Jun 16, 2026
8 min
Have you ever looked in the mirror after your divorce and not recognized the woman looking back at you? Not because of how you look — but because somewhere along the way, you stopped knowing what you liked, what you wanted, and who you even were.
In this episode, we are talking about something most women are afraid to say out loud: I lost myself being his wife. And we are going to walk through why it happens, what it costs you, and — most importantly — how to find your way back to being you.
This is not about blaming your marriage. This is about reclaiming what God always intended you to keep: yourself.
Ready to go deeper?
💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉
Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.
You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
Jun 9, 2026
Jun 9, 2026
11 min
Have you ever said yes when everything inside you wanted to say no?
Do you ever feel resentful after giving so much — and then feel guilty for feeling that way?
What if the reason you over-give has nothing to do with generosity — and everything to do with a wound you haven't healed yet?
Ready to go deeper?
💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉
Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.
You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
May 26, 2026
May 26, 2026
9 min
You keep saying you're fine. But late at night, when it's quiet... you know you're not.
This episode is for the woman who has been holding it together for everyone else — and quietly falling apart alone. It's time to stop pretending. Real healing starts here.
Are you tired of saying "I'm fine" when you are anything but?
Have you been staying busy just so you don't have to feel it?
Do you feel like you should be "over it" by now — but you're not?
What if the breakdown you've been avoiding is actually the breakthrough you've been waiting for?
Are you healing — or are you just surviving?
🎙️ In this episode you will discover:
Why saying "I'm fine" is keeping you emotionally stuck after divorce
The one grief step most women skip — and why it makes everything harder
How comparing your healing timeline to others is a lie rooted in shame
What real emotional recovery actually looks like for a Christian woman over 40
The simple shift that moves you from performing recovery to actually living it
The mask of "I'm fine" is a protection tool — but it becomes a prison
Grief is not weakness. It is love with nowhere to go
Your healing does not have a deadline — growth matters more than speed
"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted." — Psalm 34:18
Resources and Links Mentioned
📖 Scripture: Psalm 34:18 — "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
💻 Work with Patty: pattymartinlifecoach.com
🎙️ Join the Membership — Rebuild After Divorce: (add your link)
📲 DM Patty the word RISE on Instagram for more healing resources → @pattymartinlifecoach
Connecting + Next Steps
Loved this episode? You will also love these:
🎧 "Why You're Not Over Your Divorce Yet — And What to Do About It"
🎧 "When God Feels Silent After Divorce"
🎧 "How to Stop Living in Survival Mode After Divorce"
Your next step: If this episode hit home, don't just listen — take one action today. Pick one person you trust and tell them the truth about how you really are. That one moment of honesty can change everything.
Ready to go deeper?
💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉
Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.
You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page
Next Steps:
Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361
Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at
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Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Healing After Divorce Membership. DM me via Instagram for more details.
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May 19, 2026
May 19, 2026
4 min
You are not damaged goods because of your divorce....
Ready to go deeper?
💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.
You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
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