Rising After Divorce | Emotional Healing, Reclaiming, Starting Over, Trusting God
Did your divorce feel like it didn't just break your marriage — it broke you?
Like somewhere between the pain, the paperwork, and the nights you couldn't sleep... the woman you used to be quietly disappeared.
Your confidence walked out the door. Your sense of value went with it.
And deep down, you started wondering if real love was simply no longer meant for you.
If that's where you are — you are exactly where you need to be.
I'm Patty Martin-Guerra, and I'm not speaking from the outside looking in. I'm speaking as someone who sat in that same darkness.
I know what it's like to carry the quiet shame of a failed marriage.
To feel paralyzed by the thought of starting over.
To lie awake asking God whether you were too old, too wounded, too far gone for Him to write anything beautiful with what was left of your story.
But here's what I found on the other side of all of that:
Wholeness was always waiting for you. It still is.
Dating After Divorce for Christian Women Over 40 is where the real, unglamorous, necessary work actually happens.
We go deep on healing the invisible scars your marriage left behind.
We name the cycles that kept pulling you backward.
We rebuild, piece by piece, your identity, your worth, and your trust in God's plan for your love life — so that when the right person arrives, you're not just available.
You're whole. You're grounded. You're ready.
Each week I'll bring you the honest conversations nobody else is brave enough to have — the truths your closest friends can't quite articulate, your pastor tends to sidestep, and no search engine will ever hand you.
Because you weren't meant to simply outlast your divorce.
You were meant to flourish after it.
🗓️ New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe now and let's take this journey together.
Your story isn't over, sweet friend. The next chapter? It's only just beginning.
Ready to stop guessing and start dating with confidence?
You deserve a love that honors you — and it's time to believe that's possible.
Join our community and take the next step:
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Tuesday May 19, 2026
Tuesday May 19, 2026
You are not damaged goods because of your divorce....
Ready to go deeper?
💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.
You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
RECOMMENDED EPISODES:
EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026
EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical
Tuesday May 12, 2026
Tuesday May 12, 2026
Have you ever stayed in a situation — a relationship, a dynamic, a version of yourself — just because it felt safer than asking for more?
Do you second-guess your own judgment when it comes to dating because you still blame yourself for your marriage not working?
Have you ever heard "don't be picky" or "at your age you can't afford to be choosy" — and somewhere deep down, believed it?
Ready to go deeper?
💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 [Insert link]
📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.
You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
Connect https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361
Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page
Next Steps:
Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361
Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225
Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at
https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership
RECOMMENDED EPISODES:
EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026
EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical
Tuesday May 05, 2026
Tuesday May 05, 2026
Did you do everything right after your divorce, you prayed, you cried, you kept going, and yet something still feels… stuck?
You're not weak. You're not faithless. And you are absolutely not alone.
In this episode, we're having the honest conversation that most people are too afraid to start, because the reason your healing is taking longer than expected might not be what you think.
Ask yourself honestly…
Have you been telling everyone — and yourself — that you're "fine" when deep down you know you're not?
Do you feel like you've forgiven, moved on, and done the work… but the pain still shows up uninvited?
Are you secretly comparing your healing timeline to other women and wondering what's wrong with you?
Does it feel like you don't even know who you are anymore — outside of being a wife, a mom, or the woman who went through a divorce?
Have you rushed into dating, a new routine, or a "new you" to escape the grief — only to find it caught up with you?
Do you feel guilty for still hurting, especially as a woman of faith who believes God is in control?
Are you exhausted from performing okayness for your kids, your church, and your family — while quietly falling apart inside?
If you said yes to even one of these — this episode was made for you.
✦ The Difference Between Coping and Actually Healing There's a version of "strong" that looks like healing on the outside but is actually suppression on the inside. We talk about why managing your emotions is NOT the same as processing them — and why faith culture can sometimes accidentally reinforce this pattern. You'll leave knowing the difference, and what to do about it.
✦ Why You Might Be Grieving More Than Just Your Marriage Your divorce didn't just end a relationship. It dismantled a story — the story of who you were, who you thought you'd become, and what your future was supposed to look like. If healing feels impossible, it might be because you're trying to heal back to a woman who no longer exists. This is the conversation that changes everything.
"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!" — Isaiah 43:18-19
God isn't asking you to forget the pain. He's inviting you to look up — and see what He's already building in you.
📖 Scripture Referenced
Isaiah 43:18-19 — "See, I am doing a new thing!"
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-after-divorce-christian-dating-codependency/id1818255020
Instagram http://relationshipcoach4women
FREE GUIDE - TO HEAL YOUR HEART
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page
Next Steps:
Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361
Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225
Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at
https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership
Tuesday Apr 28, 2026
Tuesday Apr 28, 2026
Co-Parenting After Divorce: How to Protect Your Peace
If co-parenting with your ex leaves you feeling anxious, angry, or emotionally exhausted — this episode is for you.
One text. One phone call. One unexpected change in plans. And suddenly your entire day is derailed. Your heart is racing, your mind is spinning, and you can't focus on anything else. Sound familiar?
Co-parenting after divorce is one of the hardest emotional challenges a woman can face — especially when the relationship ended in pain. You're trying to heal. You're trying to show up for your kids. But every interaction with your ex feels like a step backward in your recovery.
Here's what I want you to know, you are not weak, and you are not broken. You just haven't been given the tools to protect your emotional space while still being the mom your kids need.
In this episode we're talking about:
✅ Why your ex still has the power to trigger you, even after the divorce
✅ How one interaction can completely hijack your emotions and your day
✅ Practical tools to protect your peace so YOU decide how your day goes, not him
✅ How to show up for your kids from a place of calm instead of chaos
✅ The faith-based mindset shift that will change how you approach every co-parenting interaction
By the end of this episode you will have real, actionable tools to take your emotional power back, one interaction at a time.
Because you deserve peace, sis. Not when he finally changes. Right now. Today.
🎧 This episode is for you if:
You feel like your ex still controls your emotions even though the marriage is over
Co-parenting stress is spilling over into your home and your relationship with your kids
You're tired of feeling anxious every time his name pops up on your phone
You want to heal completely, not just on the outside
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
Podcast Https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-after-divorce-christian-dating-codependency/id1818255020
Connect https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361
Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page
Next Steps:
Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361
Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225
Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at
https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership
RECOMMENDED EPISODES:
EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026
EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical
Tuesday Apr 21, 2026
Tuesday Apr 21, 2026
Today is my birthday — and the best gift I can give you is the truth.
I found real love at 49. Not by luck. Not by magic. But by doing the work — even when I didn't feel like it, even when I doubted myself, even when I wondered if it was too late.
If you've been praying, waiting, and wondering why nothing is changing — this episode is for you.
In this episode I share:
Why passive hope is not the same as active faith
The invisible emotional wall that might be blocking real connection
The "I'll be ready when…" trap that keeps you stuck longer than anything else
My personal story of what I actually did to find love after divorce
"Faith without works is dead." — James 2:17
You don't have to be finished. You just have to be available.
🎧 Listen now — and share this with a friend who needs to hear it today.
Ready to stop waiting and start doing the work? Join the Dating After Divorce membership — link below.
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
Podcast Https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-after-divorce-christian-dating-codependency/id1818255020
Connect https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361
Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page
Next Steps:
Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361
Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225
Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at
https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership
RECOMMENDED EPISODES:
EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026
EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical
Tuesday Apr 14, 2026
Tuesday Apr 14, 2026
THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF
✅ You feel like God stopped listening when your marriage fell apart
✅ You are angry and ashamed of how angry you are
✅ You don't recognize yourself anymore after the divorce
✅ You have stopped praying because it feels pointless
✅ You need someone to tell you healing is still possible for you
FREE GUIDE - TO HEAL YOUR HEART
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page
Next Steps:
Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361
Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225
Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at
https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership
RECOMMENDED EPISODES:
EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026
EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical
Tuesday Apr 07, 2026
Tuesday Apr 07, 2026
Tired of just getting through the day? Feeling like you should be further along by now — but the weight of everything divorce left behind is still keeping you stuck? Do you find yourself exhausted at night, not from living, but from simply surviving? What if the peace you've been desperately searching for... was actually closer than you think?
In this episode of Dating After Divorce for Christian Women Over 40, we're going somewhere deeply personal — your life after divorce. Not the highlight reel. Not the version you post on social media. The real one. The one where you're holding it all together on the outside but quietly falling apart on the inside. The one where you lie awake at night wondering, "Is this really all there is for me now?" and "Why does everyone else seem to be moving on but me?"
If divorce already made you feel like you lost a piece of yourself, the last thing you want is to admit that you still don't feel okay — even months or years later. So you've kept going. Pushing through. Telling everyone you're fine when deep down you're running on empty.
But here's what I need you to know before you press play — you are not broken. You are not behind. You are a woman walking through one of the most transformative seasons of her life, and survival mode was never meant to be your permanent address.
In this episode, I'm walking you through three powerful truths that will help you begin to loosen the grip that fear, exhaustion, and lost identity have on your life — shifts that are simple enough to start today, and meaningful enough to change everything about how you move forward.
This is not about just getting by anymore. This is about finally, truly living.
God has not forgotten about you — and the life He has planned for you is far greater than the one you've been settling for in survival mode.
"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." — Jeremiah 29:11
🎧 Press play. You've survived the storm — now it's time to step into the sunshine.
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
Podcast Https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-after-divorce-christian-dating-codependency/id1818255020
Connect https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361
Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women
Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page
Next Steps:
Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361
Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225
Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at
https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership
RECOMMENDED EPISODES:
EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026
EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical
Thursday Apr 02, 2026
Thursday Apr 02, 2026
In this episode, I sit down with Jamie Love to talk about the powerful connection between physical and mental health — and why caring for both is essential to moving forward in life.
Jamie shares her insights on what it truly means to show up for yourself, inside and out, and how prioritizing your well-being can unlock growth in every area of your life.
In this episode, we cover:
Why your physical health and mental health are deeply connected
How neglecting one affects the other
Practical ways to start caring for your whole self
What it looks like to prioritize yourself so you can move forward in life
Connect with Jamie Love: https://www.instagram.com/glowgirlwithlove/
Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76
Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-after-divorce-christian-dating-codependency/id1818255020
Instagram http://relationshipcoach4women
FREE GUIDE - TO HEAL YOUR HEART
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page
Next Steps:
Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361
Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at
https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225
Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at
https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership
RECOMMENDED EPISODES:
EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026
EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical