Rising After Divorce | Emotional Healing, Reclaiming, Starting Over, Trusting God
Did your divorce feel like it didn't just break your marriage — it broke you?
Like somewhere between the pain, the paperwork, and the nights you couldn't sleep... the woman you used to be quietly disappeared.
Your confidence walked out the door. Your sense of value went with it.
And deep down, you started wondering if real love was simply no longer meant for you.
If that's where you are — you are exactly where you need to be.
I'm Patty Martin-Guerra, and I'm not speaking from the outside looking in. I'm speaking as someone who sat in that same darkness.
I know what it's like to carry the quiet shame of a failed marriage.
To feel paralyzed by the thought of starting over.
To lie awake asking God whether you were too old, too wounded, too far gone for Him to write anything beautiful with what was left of your story.
But here's what I found on the other side of all of that:
Wholeness was always waiting for you. It still is.
Dating After Divorce for Christian Women Over 40 is where the real, unglamorous, necessary work actually happens.
We go deep on healing the invisible scars your marriage left behind.
We name the cycles that kept pulling you backward.
We rebuild, piece by piece, your identity, your worth, and your trust in God's plan for your love life — so that when the right person arrives, you're not just available.
You're whole. You're grounded. You're ready.
Each week I'll bring you the honest conversations nobody else is brave enough to have — the truths your closest friends can't quite articulate, your pastor tends to sidestep, and no search engine will ever hand you.
Because you weren't meant to simply outlast your divorce.
You were meant to flourish after it.
🗓️ New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe now and let's take this journey together.
Your story isn't over, sweet friend. The next chapter? It's only just beginning.
Ready to stop guessing and start dating with confidence?
You deserve a love that honors you — and it's time to believe that's possible.
Join our community and take the next step:
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Episodes
Episodes
Jan 20, 2026
Jan 20, 2026
12 min
HOW TO UNBLOCK YOUR BLESSINGS: A Path Back to Love 💕Feeling like love has passed you by? Wondering if you're too broken, too damaged, or too late for the blessings God has in store? This episode is your reminder that your blessings aren't lost - they're just waiting for you to clear the path.THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:
You're divorced, separated, or healing from heartbreakYou feel unworthy of love or happinessYou're ready to stop blocking your own blessingsYou want to step back into your power and prepare for love
Be a founding member for Dating After Divorce for Christian Women
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This is just the beginning. The best content will come from you and the founding group as we refine and build side by side.
Interested?
DM me "READY" to my Instagram account within 24 hours and I'll send you the details. @relationshipcoach4women
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EP 17| Unashaming Divorce - Regaining Your Worth
Jan 13, 2026
Jan 13, 2026
15 min
Are you struggling with setting healthy boundaries as a Christian? Do you feel guilty saying no or find yourself people-pleasing instead of being honest? In this episode, we dive deep into James 5:12—'Let your yes be yes and your no be no'—to discover what the Bible really says about healthy boundaries in relationships.
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and go
FROM:
A divorced Christian woman over 40 who is wounded, isolated, and paralyzed by fear—carrying shame about her past, believing she's unworthy or "damaged goods," convinced good men don't exist or won't want her, second-guessing her standards, afraid to trust herself picker or date again.
Although she “believes” that there is someone out there for her, she feels hopeless and exhausted at times and doubts that God's plan includes real love for her at this stage of life.
TO:
A healed, confident woman who knows and owns her worth in Christ, clearly understands what she wants in a relationship without apology.
Has shifted her limiting beliefs about men, dates with discernment and boundaries (not desperation or fear), and she engages in faith-based dating while continuing her growth, and trusts both herself and God's timing to bring the right man to her.
She is patiently waiting for the right person.
If you join me as a founding member, you’ll get first access and a seriously discounted
50 % discounted locked-in for life! rate—even when the price increases later.
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Jan 6, 2026
Jan 6, 2026
19 min
HUMILIATION WOUND -THE CHILDHOOD TRAUMA THAT CREATED THIS:What Actually Happened to You:INJUSTICE WOUND - THE CHILDHOOD TRAUMA THAT CREATED THIS:What Actually Happened to You:
listen to the full episode to find out if you need to heal from these traumas and how they are affecting your current adult life in general, not only your love life.
If you’d like to schedule a FREE discovery call with me click the link below:
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EP 31| Why You Can't Trust Good Men - Part 3 The Wound of Betrayal
EP 30| Stop Shape-Shifting Into Who He Wants- Part 2 The Wound of Rejection
EP 29| Your Childhood Trauma Is Ruining Your Love Life - Part 1 The Wound of Abandonment
Dec 30, 2025
Dec 30, 2025
15 min
Another year has gone, let the old habits go with that year as well and welcome the new better habits this 2026
Let me teach you how....
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Dec 26, 2025
Dec 26, 2025
11 min
In this episode we explore how past betrayal trauma affects your current relationships, even with good men who are doing everything right.
We discuss the self-sabotaging behaviors many of us develop as protection mechanisms—checking phones, creating loyalty tests, keeping escape plans—and why these patterns keep us trapped in a cycle of distrust.
I share Monica's story, a woman who ended a healthy relationship because she couldn't accept that someone could be genuinely transparent, and I give you a practical vulnerability exercise you can start today.
If you've experienced betrayal in the past and feel like you can't let your guard down with someone new, this episode will help you understand why—and how to begin healing.
If you are interested in the $10.00 gift card in exchange of a 20 minute zoom call with me, please email me at
patty.martinlifecoach@gmail.com
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Dec 16, 2025
Dec 16, 2025
9 min
What is the Inner Child?
Abandonment WoundHumiliation WoundBetrayal WoundRejection WoundInjustice Wound
Learn:
What Creates Rejection Wounds? and How to begin to heal from it.
This episode is for you if you:
You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems
You feel incapable of choosing the right man
You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return
You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before
You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing
You wonder if God is punishing you for what you did in the past
You're ready to stop the cycle but don't know
Interested in a FREE Discovery call with me?
I AM INTERESTED!
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Dec 9, 2025
Dec 9, 2025
15 min
Learn What Creates Abandonment Wounds?Physical abandonment: absent parent, divorce in childhood, death of a parentEmotional abandonment: parent present physically but emotionally unavailable, neglectConditional love: love given only when you performed, achieved, or behaved "right"How Abandonment Shows Up in Your Dating Life:Anxious Attachment - You become clingy, need constant reassurance, fear being leftTesting Behavior - You push men away to see if they'll stay (self-fulfilling prophecy)Settling - You accept breadcrumbs because any attention feels better than noneHyper-Independence - "I don't need anyone" becomes your armor, preventing intimacyMoving Too Fast - You rush commitment to secure the relationship before they can leave
Does This Sound Like You?
You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems
You feel incapable of choosing the right man
You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return
You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before
You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing
You wonder if God is punishing you for what you did in the past
You're ready to stop the cycle but don't know
If you nodded your head to any of these, I'd like to ask you some questions for a research I am doing.
I AM NOT SEELING ANYTHING - I simply want to understand your journey better so I can serve women like you more effectively
If you or someone you know are interested, please send me an email to my email address listed below.
🔗 patty.martinlifecoach@gmail.com
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Dec 2, 2025
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Spotting Narcissists Before You Fall Again
Why your fear of dating again isn't about you being "not enough"5 red flags that identify narcissistic behavior earlyThe difference between godly love and manipulationHow the Holy Spirit guides you toward healthy relationshipsBiblical truths to anchor your worth and decision-making
Ready to Go Deeper?Join the You Are Enough Workshop and learn how to free yourself from narcissistic relationships with parents, ex-partners, or current relationships.
Break the cycle and step into healthy, God-honoring love.
You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems
You feel incapable of choosing the right man
You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return
You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before
You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing
You wonder if God is punishing you for what you did in the past
You're ready to stop the cycle but don't know
If you nodded your head to any of these, then my end of year workshop is for you.
Sign up for my completely online workshop YOU ARE ENOUGH
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